"Dignity without Compromise"


J. Abney Gilder

J. Abney Gilder died, May 2, 2004 on his 87th birthday, in Stillwater, OK. Services are11:00 am Thursday, May 6th in Okmulgee, OK at the Episcopal Church of the Redeemer with burial following at Okmulgee Cemetery, under the direction of the McClendon-Winters Funeral Home.

Abney was born in Demopolis, Alabama May 2, 1917 to Anne P. and Edward J. Gilder. He graduated from Okmulgee High School in 1935. He also graduated from Okmulgee Junior College and the Southwestern Graduate School of Banking at SMU.

Abney’s wife of 54 years, Laverl, infant son Mark, and son Abney Wayne predeceased him. His parents, one brother Edward, and two sisters, Laurie Gilder and Cecile Cazort also preceded him in death. Survivors include his daughter Laurie, her husband Bill Beets, and grandson Tyler Joseph Beets. Also surviving is one sister, Ruth Temple of Richland, WA.

Abney was deeply devoted to his family and church. He was a faithful member of the Episcopal Church his entire life. Abney was known for his work ethic, fairness, and integrity. He worked in various jobs such as at a ping pong parlor, at the Inca Theater, as an electrician’s helper, an ordinance inspector, and also served his country in the Army-Air Force during WWII. Abney began his banking career in 1946 and retired Executive Vice President of the First National Bank of Okmulgee in 1984. He also served on the Board of the Okmulgee Memorial Hospital when it was being constructed.

There Will be Viewing at the Funeral Home on Wednesday from 12 noon until 8:00 PM.

Memorials may be made to the Episcopal Church of the Redeemer Memorial Fund, PO Box 1012, Okmulgee, OK. 74447.